Why blogging can feel like talking to yourself

Sometimes I do wonder what the point is of blogging. It does often feel like I’m talking to myself.

I have noticed that the more frequently I blog, the more people interact with me, and the more motivated I am to continue blogging. But if I don’t blog very much, nobody seems to notice. The world doesn’t fall apart, and I don’t get people knocking on my door worrying whether I’m OK or not. Or even messaging me to say they miss my blogs. They just don’t notice that I’m not there. I suppose that is a little like social media in general though – you get out of it what you put in.

As I’m sure I mentioned when I was doing Come Blog With Me, I do mainly write for myself. Because I enjoy the process of compiling my thoughts in writing, because it helps me think about things, because sometimes I have some information I want to share with the world. I’m not controversial or very opinionated in my blogs (although if I get annoyed enough in the coming month I might write about WHY PEOPLE SHOULD VOTE, as I can’t understand people who don’t use their vote), so it’s not like people feel a great need to contradict me or engage in a debate with me.

And in the grand scheme of things, I shouldn’t need other people’s approval for anything I do, including blogging. But a little attention would be nice. I suppose it’s a bit like other forms of creativity – writing a book, making art or taking photos – feedback is not the point, it’s just a nice side effect. (And being paid for doing something you enjoy is just an added bonus…)

I have had time on my hands this year to blog more than usual, but that’s going to change over the coming months as things get busier in my working life. And I know then I won’t see the point of writing unless I either have something to share that I’m passionate about, or that I feel people are waiting eagerly for my next profound thoughts….

The most popular posts I’ve written have often been the ones I’ve been most scared to share because I feel like they say something really personal about me. Even though in reality they don’t, it just feels that way sometimes. But they’re the ones people seem to engage with and comment on and share on social media.

So what’s next for my blog then? I have a whole list of topics to write about, some of which were just flashes of inspiration that now seem silly, but some have been wandering around my head for a while so might make it onto a post. Have I said everything I want to say about the world of work, and the business of life? No, not yet – there are plenty more ponderings where those came from.

So I’ll continue blogging until there are no thoughts left in my brain – or until I get so busy I don’t have any spare time – and know that at some point I’ll write something more that resonates with people and prompts them to share their thoughts and experiences. But until then, it’ll just be me, my brain and a laptop….

Zebra, Marwell Wildlife Park. Photo taken in 2011.

Zebra, Marwell Wildlife Park

14 thoughts on “Why blogging can feel like talking to yourself

  1. I started as a way to force us to make little notes on our son as he grows, adding other adventures as we go, so eventually he will have some idea of his early life, things we forget when we get older, so reasons remain personal, therefore the rest is a plus. I do agree with you about who cares really, life goes on with or without, and even most of the biggest blogs only have fractions of bloggers out there following. Sometimes it is therapeutic to just get something down and out there. I think blogging should be about you and what you want to do, responses also seems bigger if you’re true, as you mentioned.

    • Thanks for the comment 🙂 I agree, I think once you start blogging it becomes something where you collect thoughts and memories for whatever reason – and then it doesn’t matter whether anyone else reads it if you like looking back at it!

  2. I get that too Nina, some days I get loads of view and comments and others I don’t but I’m going with the flow anyway 😊 Just keep writing because I love your posts!

    • Thanks Marteen – it’s a funny old thing blogging isn’t it?! I also go through phases of reading and commenting on other people’s blogs, so I suppose I should realise that everyone else does that too!

    • Thanks Lotte 🙂 Was just pondering to myself, am not planning to stop – just wondering how it will fit in when I’m busier during the day (which I will be v soon)!!

  3. You’re right. You get out what you put in. It’s a nice way to focus, to write regularly and hold yourself accountable. Who knows? You might hit the jackpot with one of your posts, write something that a lot of people identify with and boom! You’ll be talking to a lot more than yourself and your current followers. Visiting from Sunday Blog Share. Cheers —

    • Thanks for visiting my blog and the comment 🙂 It’s funny how some blogs prompt more comments and interaction than others, but that’s part of the enjoyment of blogging, seeing what happens!

  4. Reblogged this on Blissfully Single and commented:
    Sometimes my own blogging feels this way too. But I keep at it, because maybe, just maybe, my words will reach someone who feels the same – and they will know they are not alone!

    • Thanks for visiting and reblogging 🙂 It’s funny how some blog post prompt reply and some don’t. Reminds me to visit others and comment too!

    • I definitely go through phases of commenting v not really interacting much. A good reminder to interact as well as just blogging and publishing!

  5. I’ve been blogging on various topics for years and I got to where I would tease because as you mentioned, it seems like you’re talking to yourself. So I say that on some days, its the only intelligent conversation I will have lol I am terrible at commenting but I am trying to get better about that. I read a lot of blogs, smile, reflect or get angry depending on the topic but rarely comment. So I figured I would let you know that I’m new here but your words were read 🙂

    • Thanks for visiting and commenting 🙂 I find I go through phases with commenting, and in fact with reading other people’s blogs. Sometimes I do it regularly, sometimes I don’t interact for ages. It’s nice to see lots of people relate to this post – and glad to see it prompted a comment from you.

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